They shared my ex-husbands criticisms of me. My smoking was often a deal breaker, even though my profile clearly stated that I’m a smoker and I even posted pictures of me holding a cigarette. A few of these dates led to extremely unsatisfactory sexual encounters. Either men forgot to bring their “Viagra” or their “Viagra” wouldn’t kick in.
To these men, I do not give them one more second of my time. – If you want to meet a man, you’ll have better luck meeting them if you do things that men enjoy that you also like to do. That’s a classic method for those of either gender at any age. It is my experience that physical intimacy enhances other aspects of the relationship, meaning emotional stability and satisfaction, trust, bonding, etc.
If the man is kind and respectful, his height makes no difference to me. I am sorry you’ve been so harshly judged. Tony M……just like it makes no sense to lump all men into a category and stereotype them, all women should not be considered liars. There’s good and not so good in all of us.
The more I got to know her and after I started to take down the blinders. I realized that she had a ton of issues beyond my control. Knowing how difficult it is for me, to just get a date with someone. I knew it was best for me to end it with this girl. I was able to be with one last person in Jun 2000.
It seems that most men my age don’t want a commitment of any kind but just want to play around, especially with younger women. The problem is that we’ve all been burned, and most of us don’t handle it well. Women and men both have become very self-centered. It is hard to be vulnerable anymore for fear of being taken advantaged of. Other women I know tell me worse stories about men and online dating then what I’ve just told.
The limits and maximums change over time
Just so you know, my last relationship was with a man who was on disability and only worked part time. He wasn’t rich financially but he was the sweetest, kindest, most generous man I have ever known, both in and out of the bedroom. Bill…..I am 50 and I have been divorced. Sure it was crappy to go through it, but it is SO over. My life even to this date has not turned out the way I expected but I still have hope for the future and have lots of great relationships and interests in my life that make me happy.
When you are close to someone you love with your entire heart and soul you aren’t even thinking about all the non-essential stuff in life, and most things are indeed non-essential. I went through a painful divorce 7 yrs ago I did not want after a 19 yr relationship. I then met a nice man who passed away after only two yrs together.
The same married guy of integrity and 58 years old…that had contracted work at her facility for safety. While I was up living in a construction zone, coming home on weekends to work/maintain our new house, the two were having all kinds of fun and I was so beaten down…did not catch it. I am 50, recently single after an empty nest.
Are these ladies going to want be married and/or stay with a dude once they turn 60, 65, 70, etc? If it is just for the sexual aspect or for filling short-term needs than maybe it makes sense. Don’t think it would usually lead BBWDesire to a healthy and satisfying relationship. I think once you get beyond a certain age difference it becomes more difficult to make a relationship work. Your post sounds like you have baggage and would scare me away in short time.
Assessing the Viability of an Age-Gap Relationship
I want to have a relationship with someone my age. You sound jaded and angry, like many women in their 50s sadly. Went on one of these so-called “dating sites” allegedly catering to folks in my age range. I thought I had a good profile, nevertheless little interest. So I created a fake female profile to see if I could uncover how many dudes I was up against and maybe glean some insight from their profiles.
When you’re 26, however, this person would be 20 and would be right at the line of your age-minimum threshold (13 + 7). In a few more years, you’ll be 28 and this person will be 22, above your new threshold of 21 (14+7). In some cases, the results of the “half-your-age-plus-7 rule” doesn’t reflect scientific evidence for age preferences.
With kids out of the nest, an older man may have more time for you.
I understand some of what you have experienced. More propaganda from the brain dead. Your divorced because you made a bad choice. You ignored good men for the “bad boy”.Or someone you could “fix”. So now you want someone to clean up the mess.
It’s a pity that “Men’s study” courses are prohibited in college. What you’re describing is female hypergamy. It’s well documented all over the net.
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Of course, this only lasts for a while because she is into the fantasy of a controlling man but isn’t interested in the reality of it. I gave up trying to date 3 years ago. Not because I do not want a partner but more the quality of the woman I met.